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Finding Love Starts With You

Love is a lot simpler and more magical than we often make it out to be. It's like a mirror reflecting what's inside us. If you're looking for love, or want to improve the love you have, the secret starts with you. Here's a straightforward look at how loving yourself can change what and who you attract into your life.

Imagine you're a magnet. What you feel inside, you attract. If you're full of love and respect for yourself, you'll find people and situations that reflect that love and respect back to you. But if you're hard on yourself, guess what? You might find yourself in situations or relationships that don't feel good.


  • If you believe you're worthy of kindness, you'll likely find friends and partners who treat you with kindness.

  • But, if you're always criticizing yourself, you might end up with someone who criticizes you too.

Change Starts From Within

When something in your life doesn't feel right, it's a signal to look inside. Changing your external situation without addressing the internal issues is like changing the wallpaper in a room that needs a whole renovation. It might look better for a bit, but the deeper problems are still there.


  • Imagine you're always attracting partners who don't commit. Instead of blaming the world for a lack of good partners, look inside. Do you commit to yourself? Do you respect your own time and dreams? When you start committing to yourself fully, you'll start to attract partners who do the same.

How to Cultivate Self-Love

  • Talk to Yourself Like a Friend: Would you tell your best friend they're not good enough? No, right? So, why say it to yourself? Start noticing how you talk to yourself and make it kinder.

  • Take Care of Your Needs: Whether it's taking time to read a book, going for a walk, or ensuring you're eating well, taking care of your needs sends a message to yourself that you matter.

  • Set Boundaries: This is about saying no when you need to and yes when you want to. It's about honoring your feelings and needs. When you respect your boundaries, others will too.

  • Celebrate Small Wins: Did you get out of bed when you didn't feel like it? Celebrate that. Small wins build confidence and self-respect.

Reflecting Your Inner Love

Once you start filling your own cup with love, you'll notice the world around you begins to change. You'll attract people who respect and cherish you because you respect and cherish yourself. It's like the universe is a big mirror, reflecting your own love back at you.


  • After starting to prioritize her own needs and setting boundaries, Maria noticed a shift in her relationships. New friends who respected her time and energy came into her life, and her existing relationships deepened and became more fulfilling.

As we navigate the path of self-love and attracting the love we deserve, it's important to remember that this journey is unique for everyone. It's filled with its own challenges and moments of self-discovery. Sometimes, the journey can feel overwhelming, and you might not know where to start or how to continue. If you find yourself in need of support to fall in love with yourself, it's perfectly okay to reach out for help.

Life coaches, like myself, specialize in guiding individuals through these very personal and sometimes complex journeys. We're here to help you reconnect with your inner divinity, to rediscover the love and respect for yourself that you may have misplaced along the way. Together, we can work to identify the barriers to self-love you're facing, develop strategies to overcome them, and set you on a path toward not just accepting but celebrating yourself.

In the end, love really does start with you. By nurturing your relationship with yourself, you set the foundation for all the relationships in your life. So, if you're ready to fall in love with yourself and, by extension, attract the love you've always desired, don't hesitate to reach out. Your journey to self-love and beyond is just a conversation away.

Love and Light


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